What Are You? Seme, Uke, Or Both?

What would you say you was a seme, a uke, or maybe both.




Every online quiz I take says i'm a seme. But I have the quality of both.

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For those who don't know what a Seme or Uke is ...


The two participants in a yaoi relationship (sometimes also in yuri[34]) are often referred to as seme (攻め or せめ?) and uke (受け or うけ?). These terms originated in martial arts and do not carry any degrading connotations. Seme derives from the Japanese ichidan verb semeru (攻める or せめる, to attack?) and uke from the Japanese ichidan verb ukeru (受ける or うける, to receive?). Though gay males are often referred to in English as "tops" or "bottoms", seme and uke are more nearly analogous to "pitcher" and "catcher." The seme and uke are often drawn in the bishōnen style and are "highly idealised",blending both masculine and feminine qualities.

The seme is often depicted as the stereotypical male of anime and manga culture: restrained, physically powerful, and/or protective. The seme is generally older and taller, with a stronger chin, shorter hair, smaller eyes, and a more stereotypically masculine, even "macho", demeanour than the uke. The seme usually pursues the uke, hence the name. The uke usually has softer, androgynous, feminine features with bigger eyes and a smaller build, and is often physically weaker than the seme. Anal sex is a prevalent theme in yaoi, as nearly all stories feature it in some way. The storyline where an uke is reluctant to have anal sex with a seme is considered to be similar to the reader's reluctance to have sexual contact with someone for the first time. One stereotype that is criticized is when the protagonists do not identify as gay, but rather are simply in love with that particular person. This is said to heighten the theme of all-conquering love, but is also pointed to as avoiding having to address prejudices against people who consider themselves to have been born homosexual. In recent years, newer yaoi stories have characters that identify as gay. Criticism of the stereotypically "girly" behavior of the uke has also been prominent.It has been questioned if yaoi is heteronormative, due to the masculine seme and feminine uke stereotype. Additionally, yaoi stories are often told from the uke's perspective.

Though these stereotypes are common, not all works adhere to them. Mark McLelland says that authors are "interested in exploring, not repudiating" the dynamics between the insertive partner and the receptive partner.The possibility of switching roles is often a source of playful teasing and sexual excitement for the characters, which has been said to show that the genre is aware of the "performative nature" of the roles. Sometimes the bottom character will be the aggressor in the relationship,or the pair will switch their sexual roles. Riba, リバ (a contraction of the English word "reversible") is used to describe a couple that yaoi fans think is still plausible when the partners switch their seme/uke roles.In another common mode of characters, the author will forego the stylisations of the seme and uke, and will portray both lovers as "equally attractive handsome men". In this case, whichever of the two who is ordinarily in charge will take the "passive role" in the bedroom.